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[Guest Post] New Years Resolutions? We Do This Instead

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The New Year is upon us. While many of my friends make New Year’s resolutions, and some are successful at keeping their resolutions, we have found an even better fit for our family. You might find it fits yours, too. About five years ago, our family went in a new direction with our New Year’s goals, and it has been life changing. Truly.

In keeping with the tradition of New Year’s Resolutions, for the past four years, our family has chosen one word on which to focus during the entire year. Our word sort of guides us and is used when making decisions, both big and small. For example, when questioning a decision, a trip, purchase, or a life change, we ask ourselves if it is in line with our chosen word. The first year we did this, our word was “balance.” We all stayed focused on our word until the very end of the year and even still use it as a guiding factor. At the end of the year, I felt as if our lives and lifestyle were much more in balance, and it continues to be so. It is a big consideration when meal planning, budgeting our family expenses, time management, and in our consumer habits. We learned that year when to save and when to splurge, practiced moderation, learned to budget and stuck with it, weighed our priorities, and learned lessons in wants versus needs.

guest post family photo Our family learned to better balance work and play. We got very creative with our activities and balanced the occasional expensive trips and activities with free activities at the public library, state parks, and farmer’s markets. We had so much fun!

The word, “Truth,” as in telling the truth, expecting the truth, finding truth and meaning, and staying true to God, self, and family, was chosen our second year, and has now permanently become a part of our family’s focus.
The third year, we chose “Wellness.” Ironically, our family was most unwell during this time. We traveled back and forth to the hospital visiting Mark’s father, first here in South Boston, then in Lynchburg for seven weeks. He passed away that February. Mark was heartbroken, as was his family. He hasn’t fully recovered, and I doubt he ever will. I thought Wellness was going to be a physical journey of eating well and exercising, losing weight and getting into shape, trying new recipes, that sort of thing. It ended up being very different for us. It became clear to us that being well was about treating the whole self and the whole family structure. It became so apparent to us the interconnectedness of the whole self, mind, body, and soul. Wellness involves relationships, energy, action, our choices, our feelings, how we treat ourselves, and how we react to others. We found that ironically, wellness began with a great deal of vulnerability. Although it appeared that we were far from wellness at the start of our year, having that word gave us so much to meditate on and to focus on and from which to learn.

What’s truly important to you?

Our word for 2014 has been “Intention.” Our motto for the year was to “Spend Intentionally, Give Intentionally, Love Intentionally, and Live Intentionally.” Along the lines of Wellness, the word Intention became important to me in a way I hadn’t expected. When I started the year, I wanted to be very intentional about accomplishing some projects I had wanted to do for a while but hadn’t made time for. I wanted to renovate our basement and turn it into a great family living space for our family to enjoy. I had always wanted to write a blog, but didn’t know where to start. I wanted to devote more of myself to the community and volunteer more. I wanted to reconnect with some friends and forge closer friendships. It was all to be very intentional. Then something happened that was completely out of my control. After I was struck with what appears to be Meniere’s Disease and had my first episode which lasted for 8 days in February of this year, I became very frustrated and discouraged. It took a very purposeful act to refocus on my goals. Throughout the year, I realized that living intentionally is not about having control over all aspects of my life, but in being very deliberate about how I live my life despite some things being out of my control. I learned how to better respond to events beyond my control and how to best proceed. I learned how to stay focused on my plans and goals. I learned to focus on the things I could control and practiced letting go of things outside of my control. I learned that living intentionally is about thinking ahead, planning, having a Plan B, learning what is truly important and living accordingly with purpose.
In the past, friends have loved this idea, and some have shared with me the word they chose for themselves. Chosen words have been Compassion, Love, Happiness, Growth, Follow Through, Peace, Acceptance, Gratitude, Minimalism, Family, Simplify, Perseverance, Progression, Consecrate, Braveheart (for with God nothing shall be impossible to you and because perfected love casts out fear), and Be Wise (Wisdom).

Our family has a new word for 2015, and I’ll write all about it in the next day or two. If you had to choose a word for yourself or your family, what would it be? I would love to hear what the rest of you might focus on in the upcoming year. Wishing you joy, peace, and the very best that the new year could possibly bring to you and all those your love. Blessings to you January 1st and all the year long!

xoxo, Erin

Southern Virginia Mom

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Friday Favorites 1/2

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Welcome to 2015! I hope you’ve all had an awesome holiday season. Is anyone else ready to get back into their daily routines? As much as I love celebrating, I can’t wait to set a few new goals and get back into the swing of things.

Since I’m sure a lot of you have been blogging up a storm, this is a great chance to share one of your best posts over the past week!

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Friday Favorites- 12/19

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This is it! The home stretch until Christmas! If you’re celebrating Hanukkah, then your festivities are already under way. Whatever you’re celebrating, I’m sure you’re staying busy with friends and family!

If you missed these posts from last week, check them out! They’re worth a read:

Stuff that’s Keeping Me Merry & Bright via Colleen Patrick

The Small Business Holiday Gift Guide via Sydney at Chic Stripes

Christmas Fervor from I Spy RVA

Ok, now let’s get to sharing your posts!

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Friday Favorites- 12/12

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Despite the chaos of the holiday season, we still had a great turn out at last week’s link up! Here are a few of our favorite posts:

There’s still time to try some of these DIY Christmas Decorations from Where’s the Mama?

And for those of you who still need to do some shopping, here are some great gift ideas under $100 from Everyday Celebrations.

If you’re trying to get fit in 2015, then you should definitely build this home gym! The Health Minded will show you how.

Just in case you have tons of sweet potatoes left from a Thanksgiving feast, you should try these southwestern sweet potatoes from I Heart Vegetables.

Ok, now let’s get to sharing your posts!

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Friday Favorites- 12/5

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Happy Friday! I hope you all had a wonderful Thanksgiving filled with lots of food, family, & friends. It seems like holiday festivities are in full swing now! Just in case you’re trying to burn off all that pumpkin pie, Hello to Fit has a great ab exercise to try.

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Look out, your abs will feel the burn!

Need gift ideas? We’re loving this holiday gift guide from When’s My Vacation?

It’s not too late to start an advent calendar, and The Scarlett Thread has tons of advent calendar ideas!

Now it’s your turn to share your best post of the week!

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